Our father is an obstetrician and gynecologist. Over the course of his career, he has given birth to countless babies, performed surgeries, and counseled families. He also provides abortion services. Before Roe sued Wade to legalize abortion in 1973, he treated women with uterine perforation, septic shock, hemorrhage, and other tragic consequences of illegal abortion and “back and forth” tricks, many of them performed with unsanitary and untrained hands.
After Roe, providing abortions became part of our forefathers’ custom. He also shares the joy of giving birth to parents who want to establish or expand a family. He has witnessed the anguish of pregnant women by abusive partners, or by men who do not raise their children. He also shared the relief when a woman ends an unwanted pregnancy because she is about to start school, because she has more children than she and her husband can support, because she She knows she’s not ready to be a parent, because she’s been a victim of incest or sexual assault.
After that, Dad provided abortion services in Nevada. Without giving names, he will tell us about conservative public figures who will thank him for his discreet help when their mistress or daughter became pregnant. He spoke to Mormon legislators, who told him, “Gene, I don’t like the idea of abortion. But I hate the idea that the government should tell us what to do more.”
Dad walked past scavengers he knew by name to provide a basic medical service for his identity as a doctor: helping his patients face one of the most difficult decisions ever made. of their lives. Protesters broke the windows of his clinic, threw foul bombs into the mail slot and put his name on the famous list. They assassinated a colleague of his.
After he retired, it was actually my dad who wrote the book on abortion – “Surgical Abortion”, which helped train other doctors in safer, faster, and less traumatic techniques that Dad could use. developed after 1973. He reassured his patients that the decision to have an abortion was not the right one. stigma, but rather a mature, courageous choice.
He used his famous humor to try to convince abortion rights opponents – mostly men – of the implications of an unwanted pregnancy. His book has a section called “If a Man Can Get Pregnant” where he puts it like this: “If a man has sex for one minute and he swollen for nine months, developed hemorrhoids, swollen breasts, varicose veins, thrown for two or three months, and then experienced 12 to 16 hours of severe cramping followed by something the size of with a bowling ball going through his rectum, how do you think a man would react? ” Especially if this discomfort will be followed by “the obligation to raise another human being for 18 years … and let all this happen when it is against his will. Do you really believe a man would do it? “
Our father would never be a judge or jury when a woman came to his office. He understood that women had a thousand different reasons for coming to see him. One thing he knew for sure: None of those reasons were government business. He believes that forced pregnancy and forced childbirth are crimes against humanity and he will not participate in any crimes.
“Our father understood that women have a thousand different reasons for coming to see him. One thing he knows for sure: None of it is government business. “
As we reflect on how angry and skeptical our father will be in the wake of the Supreme Court’s decision to oust Roe, we know that he will share stories of women – and men – whom he has helped throughout his long career. The women sent him pictures of the children they had when surname chose to have them. The women came to his clinic after driving for days because they had nowhere else to go and no money – and he helped them anyway. The men sat in the waiting room, grateful and relieved.
Dad, as well as we, will be deeply moved by the humiliation of our recent Supreme Court nominees who apparently lied outright to get confirmed. It’s hard to fathom the sheer Machiavellian mindset that made Mitch McConnell refuse to sit in the court seat in the name of “let the voters decide” – and then pass it quickly a last minute nominee to confirm a third Donald Trump appointment. By what standards of politeness or democracy did it happen?
Our father performed abortions because he knew the horrors of life in a country where reproductive rights are denied to women and those who give birth. He knows his patients have struggled with their consciences, beliefs, and needs before coming to him. Our father supported each one with kindness and reassurance and practiced medical hands.
We don’t know exactly what he’s going to do now, but there’s one thing we both bet on: Dad will still fight for women’s basic right to control over their bodies and reproductive decisions. hers. As men who inherited our father’s brave and compassionate legacy, we feel compelled to do the same – and we call on others to step up, speak up and join us. .
Daniel Glick is a journalist and author. He is a former Newsweek reporter and has written for more than 50 national and international publications, including National Geographic, Smithsonian, Rolling Stone, The Sydney Morning Herald and The Washington Post. His book “Monkey Dancing: A Father, Two Kids, and a Journey to the End of Earth” (PublicAffairs) won the Colorado Book Award.
Steven Glick is a retired nurse who has worked in the medical ICU and nerve trauma units as well as the cardiac catheterization lab. Throughout his career, he has been an instructor for new nurses, represents nurses on hospital ethics committees, and has been a guest university lecturer on palliative care. He has been married for 35 years and is a devoted husband, father and grandfather.
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